At the end of the day, you finish work and the only thing you want to do is go home, take off your bra and chill the fuck out. What is wrong with that?
Why do we constantly feel the need to fill every second of free time with plans? It is called “Free Time” for a reason? There must come a time when all of this social planning will cost us something important.
In this day and age, we feel so much pressure to be busy at all times. At work, you focus on the job at hand, but when it comes round to your break, you are checking emails, scrolling through social media and we just don’t give our mind a break – even when it is scheduled. No wonder we feel exhausted all the time.
WHY AM I EXHAUSTED AFTER WORK?
You haven’t given yourself a break yet. That’s why. When you do finally get home from work, you put your feet up, and start scrolling through those feeds again, then you remember that you have made plans with an old friend and you sit there trying to convince yourself to go by having thoughts like:
“It’ll be fun!”
“You haven’t seen them in AGES!”
“You should go.”
“You don’t want to let them down.”
“Don’t be rude.”
Then you start thinking:
“Well. I am exhausted. It has been SUCH a long day. They’ll understand. They have a job too!”
Then you pick up your phone and start thinking of the ideal text to send your friend, telling them that you are bailing because you have already taken off your bra and your pyjamas are staring up at you from your living room floor, telling you to relax. You either hit send OR suck it up and head out.
We have all been there. Haven’t we?
HERE IS ANOTHER SCENARIO:
You have a day off work, and you plan on binge watching a Netflix series until your dressing gown attaches itself to you. You get a phone call – an unexpected phone call. It’s your mother. She is wondering what your plans are for today and you KNOW she is going to judge you if you tell her the truth. So you pull an absolute lie out of your arse:
“Well, I am planning on going on a long brisk walk through the woods then I plan on feeding the ducks with the artisanal bread that I freshly baked this morning at 6am because I am just FULL of energy and I want to live my life to it’s fullest…”
Mate. Your mum is not an idiot. She knows you haven’t showered. She knows you woke up nearer noon than 6am and that the only bread based products you have nearby is the left over pizza from the night before. So here comes the guilt, and there is nothing that feels as bad as the guilt you feel from your parents is there? You instantly make plans with them and then there goes your day of watching POWER on Netflix whilst scrolling through your social media feeds.
SPEAKING OF SOCIAL MEDIA FEEDS.
I know that other Bloggers can relate to this one. For some, their social media is a part-time job that they juggle at the same time as a full-time job. Attending events after work, creating content to share on all platforms until the wee hours and then spending any minute that they have connecting with others. Goodness knows how they manage to do all that and have a social life AND have any time for themselves alone.
We make plans for almost every minute of the day, but the question is: Why?
WHY DO WE FEEL THE NEED TO FILL UP EVERY SPARE MINUTE WITH PLANS?
We all do it. We try and squeeze friends in for quick coffee catch-up in the local coffee shop where we can, and even then we have probably looked at our phones a half dozen times. Then at the end of the coffee catch-up, you instantly feel the need to pencil in each other again for another date. Don’t get me wrong, I love that but it feels pressured in a way.
You have just spent a whole day with someone and they want a date, place and time for the next meeting. CALM DOWN. Give me a moment – wait; maybe I am alone in that. I always need a wee breather after spending a long time with someone, a wee breather for my mind. I get overwhelmed when everyone hen pecks for answers about your availability. It stresses me out. I am a control freak and I like to control my personal time. I need those days off to myself, sometimes I feel greedy for doing so. Or worse. Guilty. Why?
IS IT SELFISH TO WANT TIME BY YOURSELF?
There is no harm in having a day off for YOU. Turn your phone on to silent, put the kettle on and enjoy the day that is reserved to yourself. My phone is ALWAYS on silent, my teacup is rarely empty and I always enjoy my day off to myself. I get to catch up with my Netflix queue; blog (or try to) and sometimes – very rarely – I will do some housework. When I do my housework, I always have fun. I put my wireless headphones on and put on an upbeat playlist and sing at the top of my lungs – occasionally stopping to sing to the audience, which consists of 4 cushions on my sofa. I need time alone to just switch off from everything and be… me.
Now, I don’t feel guilty about this. The way I see it is: If we keep going the way we are, then we will never know how to relax and unwind from an already hectic schedule and we will all eventually lose our minds. Anxiety is already effecting most, could this be because we don’t allow our brains to take a break?